Posts Tagged ‘Motivation/Inspiration’

073 Why Dyslexia is a Superpower w/ Gibby Booth Jasper

Why Dyslexia is a Superpower w/ Gibby Booth Jasper

Gibby Booth Jasper, host of podcast Dyslexia is a Superpower, joins us today for a powerful dialogue about the learning difference Dyslexia. As a coach and advocate, Gibby talks about real life experiences of Dyslexics as well as the challenges and triumphs that go along with it. 

Dyslexia is a Superpower

Gibby Booth Jasper believes that the real value of being dyslexic is the power of having a different mind. Dyslexics look at problems differently. It enables different solutions and in turn develops a person’s tenacity and determination. 

Many people look at dyslexia as a disability. However, it can be noted that a learning difference is never a hindrance to achieve personal goals. Just look at famous dyslexic people such as John F. Kennedy, George Washington, Albert Einstein, Walt Disney,   Richard Branson and Steven Spielberg, to name a few.

“They say everybody has a mountain to climb, but with dyslexia, your mountain has lava flowing, it has wild boars and all these obstacles. When you finally get to the top, you are able to accomplish so much more.” – Gibby Booth Jasper

Dyslexics Daily Struggle

Gibby believes dyslexics can connect the dots and solve problems differently. However, society has put on a standard on activities like writing, reading, and solving Math—which makes it hard for dyslexics to cope. Other than that, they do have spatial awareness problems, which is the difficulty of differentiating the left and the right. 

Gibby and Christopher exchanged personal experiences, as both are dyslexic themselves. Gibby recounter how traumatized she is with gas stations, as she cannot figure out moving forward and backward with her car. Christopher also shared some experiences, especially in self-check out counters in grocery stores and with tipping and counting money.

“Spatial problems, self-checkout counters, counting money. Those are the kind of things that can be normally linked to dyslexia, so if you do see someone struggling, that might be it. Go help that someone” – Gibby Booth Jasper

Empowering Dyslexics

In dealing with dyslexia, Gibby stated the importance of informing their child that they are unique and different in a good way. Parents must reassure their children that nothing is wrong with them and assist them in building self-confidence. 

“I think being able to look at it as ‘letting go of things because I can’t control them.’ Just have a sense of humor, because, in the grand scheme of life, it doesn’t matter” – Gibby Booth Jasper on struggles in doing daily activities

The real challenge for a dyslexic lies on their ability to play out strengths and to empower themselves while dealing with the existing society.

We hope you enjoyed Gibby Booth Jasper on this episode of Follow Your Different™! Christopher loves hearing from his listeners. Feel free to email him, connect on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and subscribe on iTunes!

BIO:

Gibby Booth Jasper

Links:

Gibby Booth Jasper – Website

Steven Spielberg

072 Why Steve Jobs, Jeff Bezos & many others turned to “The Coach” Bill Campbell

072 Why Steve Jobs, Jeff Bezos & many others turned to “The Coach” Bill Campbell

Randy Komisar of Kleiner Perkins joins us today to celebrate the life and lessons of legendary Silicon Valley coach, late Bill Campbell. Guest Randy Komisar, along with colleague Paul Martino of Bullpen Capital, came together to capture Bill in a podcast. Bill was the coach to Steve Jobs, Jeff Bezos, and countless Silicon Valley legends. 

Depicting The Real Bill

Bill was featured in a book called Trillion Dollar Coach, prior to the release of Randy and Paul’s podcast. The content of the book were flattering, but the title was so off-putting. It sets the wrong tone for understanding what BIll is all about. 

“Bill wasn’t a guy with a big theory. He’s not that guy who has rules like ‘10 rules to be successful.’ He was somebody who connected incredibly well with who you were and what you need and was able to get you there.” – Randy Komisar 

Bill was associated with a trillion dollars worth of value creation. He was not a highfalutin guy who would’ve wanted to be in the cover of a book. They were able to capture the real Bill, more than what the book portrayed him to be, through this podcast.

Paying it Forward

Randy and Paul had the opportunity to learn and share their respect and admiration for Bill and they want to pay it forward, through the production of their podcast. They wish that the entrepreneurs for the generations to come would be able to do the same.

Entrepreneurs could get a lot of inspiration from Bill. Randy even cited that if it was not for Bill, he would have quit business a long time ago. 

“Bill made business interesting for me and many people because he made it about people, not money.” – Randy Komisar

Learnings From The Late Bill Campbell

One important point from this discussion was the difference in doing what is right versus what is smart.  Bill believes smart people are great at rationalizing. Most of these people, though, still tend to overthink a problem and justify doing the wrong things. 

“The right thing and the smart thing aren’t necessarily the same. The right thing is worth doing, but the smart thing needs a lot of consideration. It may be smart because it allows you to do the wrong.” – Randy Komisar 

This conversation with Randy Komisar is jam-packed with Bill Campbell’s wisdom in entrepreneurship, people management, Silicon Valley legacy.

To hear more about Why Steve Jobs, Jeff Bezos & many others turned to “The Coach” Bill Campbell and more relevant information from Randy, download and listen to the episode.

BIO:

Bill Campbell

Links:

No Bull Podcast

Randy Komisar

Paul Martino

Straight Talk for Startups – Book

The Monk and the Riddle: The Art of Creating a Life While Making a Living – Book

Executives Launch Podcast To Pass On Lessons From Bill Campbell, Coach To Silicon Valley Stars

Executives Launch Podcast To Pass On Lessons From Bill Campbell, Coach To Silicon Valley Stars

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067 CEO Whisperer Jerry Colonna Reboot

CEO Whisperer Jerry Colonna Reboot Follow Your Different™ Podcast

WIRED calls Jerry Colonna the CEO Whisperer. He believes better human beings make better leaders. Today, he joins Lochhead in a fun and deep adult conversation about his new book, Reboot, and about growing up, what it takes to become a warrior leader and a lot more.

Writing a Book He Would Read

Jerry shares that Reboot is the only book he could write. Anything else would have been complete and utter bullshit. After all, he has had too many scars to bullshit his way through life.

He didn’t even know what he wanted to write when he received his agent’s offer. But soon he realized that they wanted him to be himself and show up. And the experience, coupled with his readers’ reactions, could easily reduce him to tears.

“I wrote the book that I needed to read 20 years ago.” – Jerry Colonna

Words Coming from Life

Towards the beginning of his book, Jerry ran by some of the many hardships people could go through. A co-founder quitting, investors pulling funding, spouses giving up, and many more. Every one of these instances is not some theoretical experience and can happen to anyone.

Such are the moments to stare deeply into our own experience and ask ourselves some important questions. What are we made out of, what have we chosen? But more broadly, in what ways have we been complicit in creating conditions we don’t want?

“It’s much easier to look at the world and say, ‘Why are you doing this to me? Why is this happening to me?’ But that’s uninteresting.” – Jerry Colonna

Complicit Versus Responsible

In writing his book, Jerry used the word “complicit” purposefully. He says that it differs from “responsible”, in that being complicit is like “going along with” and also unconscious. And like Joseph Campbell and Carl Jung said, until we make the unconscious conscious, it will direct our lives and we will call it fate.

We can realize how we become complicit in creating such conditions by answering the question of how they have served us. After all, that which persists does so because it delivers something.

“We might maintain structures not in our best interest because they serve this sort of larger wish for love, safety and belonging.” – Jerry Colonna

To hear more about Reboot, warrior leaders with open hearts and more life-altering nuggets from Jerry, download and listen to the episode.

Bio:

The founder and CEO of Reboot.IO, Inc. Colonna is a certified professional coach.

Colonna draws on his wide variety of experiences to help clients design a more conscious life and make needed changes to their career to improve their performance and satisfaction.

He established his coaching practice in 2007. Prior to this work, Colonna was a venture capitalist focused on investing in early-stage technology-related startups.

In 2002, Colonna became a partner with J.P. Morgan Partners (JPMP), the private-equity arm of J.P. Morgan Chase where he led the firm’s investments in companies such as ProfitLogic, Inc.

Colonna served as a director at ProfitLogic until its purchase by Oracle, Inc.

During his time at JPMP, his commitment to the non-profit sector increased significantly. In the fall of 2001, he worked with The Partnership for the City of New York to help launch the Financial Recovery Fund, a $10 million-plus program that made recoverable grants to small businesses impacted by the attacks on the World Trade Center.

He was named co-Executive Director of NYC2012 in January 2002, the organization designed to secure the City’s designation as the representation in the competition to host the 2012 Olympic Games.

In that year, he helped raise more than $6 million to further those efforts.

He joined JPMP from Flatiron Partners.

With his partner, Fred Wilson, Colonna launched Flatiron in August 1996. Flatiron became one of the most successful, early-stage investment programs.

During his tenure with Flatiron, Colonna was responsible for the firm’s investments in companies such as Geocities Inc. and Gamesville Inc. Colonna joined his first venture firm, CMG@Ventures L.P. in February 1995 as a founding partner.

CMG@Ventures was the first “Internet-specific” venture firm.

Prior to joining @Ventures, Colonna worked for ten years for CMP Media, Inc.

From 1985 to 1993, he served in a variety of roles at InformationWeek, including a three-year stint as its Editor.

Colonna also serves as Chair of the Board of Trustees at Naropa University. Naropa University comprises a four-year undergraduate college and graduate programs in the arts, education, environmental leadership, psychology and religious studies.

It is the only accredited Buddhist-inspired university in North America.

He also serves as Chair of the Board of Trustees at the Tibetan Village Project, a not-for-profit, non-political organization dedicated to creating sustainable livelihoods for Tibetans through social entrepreneurship and educational opportunities.

He is also a director at the Good Work Institute, whose mission is to educate and connect a network of local community members and actively support their collaborative efforts to regenerate their places.

The recipient of numerous awards and a compelling speaker on topics ranging from leadership to starting businesses, Colonna has been named to Forbes ASAP’s list of the best VCs and Worth’s list of the 25 most generous young Americans.

A graduate of Queens College, Colonna lives in Boulder, Colo.

Links:

WIRED – This Man Makes Founders Cry

Wikipedia – Jerry Colonna

Reboot.io – Book

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053 The Difference Between Fact & Stories w/ Dushka Zapata

The Difference Between Fact & Stories w/ Dushka Zapata Follow Your Different™ Podcast

Dushka Zapata joins us for another fun and life-affirming conversation. Dushka and Christopher talk about the origins of her soon-to-be-released book, how recounting something differently is valid, and how stories differ from facts.

Recounting Things Uniquely

Dushka is very aware of her unique thought process that translates into her writing. Oftentimes, her recollection of shared experiences differs from that of other people.

She finds this fascinating. Regardless of what other people say, these instances remind her that she has the license to say things in a different way in order to tell a story. She knows it is not some conscious effort but her recounting of things as exactly as she can.

“I’ve known for a long time that I look at things differently than other people. I think that’s what makes me worth reading—because it’s less about what happened but more of my perspective about it.” – Dushka Zapata

Different is Valid

She will soon be releasing a book about stories from her childhood and her family. She shared some of these stories to her siblings and as expected, they were surprised with the way she saw things. And for such a book, what title can be more fitting other than, This is How I Remember It?

Her book not only celebrates the uniqueness of each individual’s perspective but also nullifies the notion that one point of view is superior to another. The memory of a loved one’s passing is generally painful, but for some people like Dushka, it can also be beautiful.

“I feel really strongly about the way I remember things. It matters to me about how other people claim that I’m not recounting something right… I think that’s a gift. I’m so happy that the way I remember things is like that.” – Dushka Zapata

A Thin Line Between Facts and Stories

Dushka puts simply the difference between facts and stories through an answer to a Quora question. We often make assumptions about people’s behaviors that seem out of the ordinary. And these assumptions, those add-ons, are usually the stories that embellish facts.

Failure to see the difference between the two results in struggles for most people.

“It’s a wonder we understand each other at all because we look at the world through our assumptions and our insecurities, but I also think that we look at the world through a lot of things that never actually take place.” – Dushka Zapata

To hear more about Dushka’s powerful answers to Quora questions, her deeper take on stories and facts, download and listen to the episode.

Bio:

Dushka Zapata is one of the most prolific and popular writers working today.

On question and answer site Quora her work has been viewed over 135 million times.

She’s the author of eight best-selling books.

Dushka has over 20 years of experience as a senior communications executive in Silicon Valley.

When she’s not writing, she serves as a communications executive at tech juggernaut Zendesk.

Links:

Quora Profile

Books on Amazon

New Book –  You Belong Everywhere: and Other Things You’ll Have to See for Yourself

Twitter

LinkedIn

Quora Answers:

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052 Professor Scott Galloway on the Algebra of Happiness

Professor Scott Galloway on the Algebra of Happiness Follow Your Different™ Podcast

A powerful, researched-based look at happiness with Professor Scott Galloway from NYU. Professor Galloway is one of the most respected voices on the Internet today. He shares how the happiness curve dips in our 20s and 30s, the many “algorithms to achieving a happy life” and why “follow your passion” is the worst advice ever.

The Arc of Happiness

According to Professor Galloway, the arc of happiness starts off at a peak from the age of 0 to 22, when there’s not a lot of responsibility to deal with. Around 25, shit finally gets real. Everything we have been told is simply not going to happen and handed to us on a silver platter.

By the time we’re in our late 20s and 30s, we come to grips with the fact that as a species, we are competitive. We vie for the title of most successful, and when we fail at that, disappointments come in one after the other. At 35-45 years old, we reach the bottom of the smile, where we slowly work our way up once again to a more rewarding life.

“The happiest people in the world are probably the people who shouldn’t be, and that is, [the] seniors.” – Professor Scott Galloway

Algorithms and Equations to Happiness

Through his research, Professor Galloway found about 10 or 12 algorithms and equations directly correlated to someone’s happiness. A lot of factors contribute to happiness—financial, geographical and even demographic.

For instance, the difference between being poor and being financially secure is enormous in terms of contribution to one’s happiness. After all, money can buy you happiness up to a certain point. Where you choose to settle can also affect your chances at success and opportunities for growth, especially as a young person.

“You wanna get to where the snow and the waves are great such that you have the greatest opportunity to be good at what you do.” – Professor Scott Galloway

Why “Follow Your Passion” is Bad Advice

We have heard it time and again. Any speaker would typically sign off with doing what you love when they themselves achieved financial success through, say, iron ore smelting. And the notion that they are actually passionate about such a thing is utter bullshit.

Professor Galloway says that we are most passionate about finding what we are good at and becoming great at it. Only then can we become one step closer to happiness.

“The financial and psychological and emotional accouterments that come with being great at something will make you passionate around whatever it is.” – Professor Scott Galloway

To hear from Professor Galloway about the state of young men in America today and why love is ultimately the key to being happy, download and listen to the episode.

Bio:

Scott Galloway is a Professor of Marketing at NYU Stern School of Business where he teaches Brand Strategy and Digital Marketing to second-year MBA students. He is the author of the Digital IQ Index ®, a global ranking of prestige brands’ digital competence.

In 2012, Professor Galloway was named “One of the World’s 50 Best Business School Professors” (Poets & Quants).

Professor Galloway is also the founder of several firms including:

  • L2, a subscription business intelligence firm serving prestige brands;
  • Red Envelope, an e-commerce firm (2007, $100mm revs.); and
  • Prophet, a global brand strategy consultancy with 250+ professionals

Professor Galloway was elected to the World Economic Forum’s “Global Leaders of Tomorrow,” which recognizes 100 individuals under the age of 40 “whose accomplishments have had impact on a global level.” Professor Galloway has served on the board of directors of Eddie Bauer (Nasdaq: EBHI), The New York Times Company (NYSE: NYT), Gateway Computer, and Berkeley’s Haas School of Business.

He received a BA from UCLA and an MBA from UC Berkeley.

Links:

ProfGalloway.com

NYU Faculty Bio

Twitter

Medium

TED Speaker Bio

Vox Interview

Penguin Random House Author Bio

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044 Legendary Sales Culture with Dan Casetta

Legendary Sales Culture with Dan Casetta Follow Your Different™ Podcast

On this episode, we get to hang out with the incredible Dan Casetta. Christopher had a fascinating conversation with Dan about how to build a legendary culture, powerful ideas in recruiting and training, how to lead a young sales teen, how to change limes while saving dimes and a ton more!

Sales Organization

Dan ran the Western part of the Cutco’s sphere that touches the Pacific Ocean with 5,000 salespeople in it. What he loves about this is they get to impact a lot of young people at the time that are critical in their lives.

They get to learn a whole lot of life skills, knowledge, habits and ways of thinking that make a difference for them.

“Once you invest time and energy, help them develop and do well, help shape their attitude about the experiences that they have, so that they end up succeeding.” Dan Casetta

Recruitment and Training

They usually start with the people they know, as in, referrals. It is easier for them to train and develop those people that have been personally recommended. The training is critical and the method of recruiting precedes the training as well.

According to Dan, once the summer is over and school starts, they continue to work with these young people to support their needs. They also have what they call Leadership Academy, where the trainees continue to gain more skills and knowledge that will help them to lead the team.

“We judge people based on attitude, not necessarily based on what part of the town they live in or their background.” – Dan Casetta

Changing Lives

At a very young age, Dan was exposed to the concept of personal development. As he grew up in the business, a large part of the training and development that he did is to help people with their lives.

They teach topics and ideas that are just not related to selling Cutco, but also develop each person in his organization as humans, as people. He created this environment of personal growth in his organization and became successful in this kind of field.

“Help people with their lives, not just their jobs.” – Dan Casetta

To hear more about Dan, a sales leader and business and life coach, download and listen to this episode.

Bio:

Dan Casetta is a record-setting sales manager, business & life coach, national speaker, culture shaping executive and a longtime member of the Cutco. He is also one of the best-selling authors of the book, Success Starts Today with the famous Jack Canfield, author of the “Chicken Soup for the Soul” series.

Some of his blogs are:
• Your Words Matter
• The Magic Secret (Part 1 and 2)
• Decision-Making: Insights to Help You Make Better Choices
• How Much Does It Cost?
• Why Me?

Links:

DanCasetta.com

LinkedIn

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043 The Miracle Equation with Hal Elrod

The Miracle Equation with Hal Elrod Follow Your Different™ Podcast

Today, one of the best-selling self-help authors of all time, Hal Elrold sits with us. We unpack his brand new book, The Miracle Equation and talk about his life-changing story after beating cancer. Listen and believe that miracles do happen.

Miracle Equation

Hal created this equation 6 years prior to the Miracle Morning as a concept that he has been practicing and teaching in a company that he worked for. This is the formula that he used to beat cancer.

Anything is possible, but possible is not enough to get us up in the morning. His unwavering faith and extraordinary effort are his biggest decisions that helped him achieve his goal.

“The miracle equation is not a one-time decision to achieve a one-time goal. It’s a fundamental way of living, a way of bringing fate. It is the fundamental lens to which you approach all of your life’s challenges and all of your opportunities, goals and dreams.” – Hal Elrod

Possible to Probable

The voice of self-doubt and fear is what overrides us. According to Hal, we have to replace fear with faith. Stepping out on faith is how he closed the gap and by reinforcing that which he called the “Miracle Mantra”.

“You don’t have to believe you can achieve the goal in order to keep moving forward and ensure you achieve the goal.” – Hal Elrod

Unwavering Faith

Developing the quality and characteristics of a person is what we need to focus on. For as long as there’s effort and by maintaining unwavering faith, regardless of what the result is, we can achieve anything.

This is not a one-time decision. It is a fundamental way of approaching our life in every challenge we encounter and in every goal that we set.

“The highest benefit that you can get from setting and pursuing a goal is not to hit the goal. It is who you become on the journey toward the goal by giving it everything you have no matter what.” – Hal Elrod

To hear more about Hal, one of the best-selling self-help authors of all time, download and listen to this episode.

Bio:

Hal Elrod is one of the highest keynote speakers in America, a top podcaster, and creator of one of the fastest growing and most engaged online communities in existence. He is also one of the most inspiring authors of one of the highest rated, best-selling books in the world, The Miracle Morning.

Some of his works are:
• Achieve Your Goals podcast
• Best Year Ever Blueprint
• (10 books) of The Miracle Morning book series

Links:

HalElrod.com

Twitter

Instagram

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042 The Future with Mark Pesce

The Future with Mark Pesce Follow Your Different™ Podcast

In today’s episode, we hang out with a leading futurist Mark Pesce. He and Christopher discuss how smart the world is, why we should not be afraid of the future, how the next ten years will play out and how technology will transform our health and well-being.

Path to the Future

People get blindsided, uncontrollable and scared of what the future holds. We tend to give up when we feel that everything is not falling into place. Mark wants to show us that there is always a path through.

We have always had this path. All it takes is looking at our past and the clues to help us understand how we are going to find our .

“People come out of that with the sense of urgency that there is something that they can do, something that they can be that allows them to have not just a stake in the future, but a capacity to keep up with that future.” – Mark Pesce

Fear Because of Change

According to Mark, kids these days are so different because of their experiences.

We ask ourselves why the world is changing and why we can’t keep up. The idea of fear in us is because of change. And it is something that can be tolerated as we have the capacity to learn from one another.

“We like to master things and we don’t like it when those things change from underneath us because it makes us feel like we’re losing on mastery.” – Mark Pesce

A Smarter World

The world is getting smart. There are apps, computers, electronics, high speed mobile Internet and sensors everywhere. Mark said that over the span of 40 years, all we have done is to learn how to take all the principles that are embodied with all of these.

We have such connections, wiring and intelligence of the world that when we look at it one way, it seems very threatening. It can seem that the world is going to be so smart and would not need us anymore. But we should always remember that a machine can be dumped a million times faster than a human can.

“The challenge and pressure for us is can we get smart at the same pace the world is getting smart?” – Mark Pesce

To hear more about Mark, the leading futurist, download and listen to this episode.

Bio:

Mark Pesce is a leading futurist, author, entrepreneur and innovator. 

He is an award-winning columnist for The Register and producer and host of This Week in Startups Australia. Mark invented VRML, the standard for 3D on the Web and a core component of MPEG-4. He also authored 6 books including:

• VRML: Browsing and Building Cyberspace
• The Playful World
• The Last Days of Reality

Links:

MarkPesce.com

Twitter @mpesce

LinkedIn @markpesce


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041 Designing a Legendary Life With the Man Who “Saved Metallica” Phil Towle

Designing a Legendary Life With the Man Who “Saved Metallica” Phil Towle Follow Your Different™ Podcast

Today, the incredible performance coach Phil Towle sits with us for his very first podcast. He and Christopher have a very big, deep and adult conversation about life design, crisis and failures, building relationships and loads more. Hold tight, this dialogue gets very personal.

Break Down to Break Out

One of Phil’s approaches in coaching is called the ‘Breakdown as a Breakout Opportunity’. He normally starts by asking clients what they’re going through and from there, he can get a picture of what that means to them.

Phil sees this as a breakthrough opportunity. He takes crises as chances to look back since those that we have personally experienced can be the most catalytic.

“The crisis may be in some ways more about my resisting change, getting out of comfort zone and doing something that I need to do to go forward than anything else.” – Phil Towle

When Crises Arise

Phil sees a crisis as very personal as we have to look at our part in the challenge. To deal with it, we need to slow the process down rather than focusing and having the desire to change in an attempt to make life better.

We should ask ourselves, “How did I co-create this? What’s my part of the conflict?” Once identified, we can then position ourselves to make the change. Do we cut and run or do we persevere?

“We co-created crisis out of necessity because we need to make a change, some kind that we’re resisting.” – Phil Towle

Relationships Founded on Authenticity

Building relationships, whether short-term or long-term, do not have to be hard. If we continue to create authenticity in our interactions, we build a kind of intimacy that makes it easier for us to do so. The best way to approach it is to have the desire to make sure that you maintain present interaction in a way that is meaningful.

Have the openness of someone that is constructing a long-term relationship and make sure that you and the other party are honest with each other. Invest in the quality of the experience so that in the case that things go downhill and you decide to abandon the relationship, you will constructively move forward. You will take each other with you and the relationship practically never stops.

“When I’m not constructive, or when I start to build expectations of how I want you to be, then our relationship is misshapen. It takes on a different form that’s likely to end in some kind of trauma because I haven’t respected you. I made you a conformer or tried to make you conform to my agenda.” – Phil Towle

To hear more about Phil’s take on crises, mental health and failures, download and listen to this episode.

Bio:

Phil Towle defines “performance coaching” as a proactive psychological strategy that facilitates making your best better.

Phil works with “Difference makers” committed to using their God-given talents to fulfill their highest possibilities, and those around them determined to transform each hardship, setback and self-imposed limitation, into superior achievement.

His clients include:

  • Metallica;
  • Dick Vermeil (Superbowl Winning Coach with St. Louis Rams);
  • Bill Romanowski (Professional Athlete);
  • Rascal Flatts;
  • Tom Morello (musician with Rage Against Machine/ Audioslave/ Nightwatchman, and Human Rights Activist)

Links:

PhilTowle.com

Metallica documentary featuring Phil Towle working with the band:“Some Kind of Monster”

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