Dushka Zapata joins us for another fun and life-affirming conversation. Dushka and Christopher talk about the origins of her soon-to-be-released book, how recounting something differently is valid, and how stories differ from facts.
Recounting Things Uniquely
Dushka is very aware of her unique thought process that translates into her writing. Oftentimes, her recollection of shared experiences differs from that of other people.
She finds this fascinating. Regardless of what other people say, these instances remind her that she has the license to say things in a different way in order to tell a story. She knows it is not some conscious effort but her recounting of things as exactly as she can.
“I’ve known for a long time that I look at things differently than other people. I think that’s what makes me worth reading—because it’s less about what happened but more of my perspective about it.” – Dushka Zapata
Different is Valid
She will soon be releasing a book about stories from her childhood and her family. She shared some of these stories to her siblings and as expected, they were surprised with the way she saw things. And for such a book, what title can be more fitting other than, This is How I Remember It?
Her book not only celebrates the uniqueness of each individual’s perspective but also nullifies the notion that one point of view is superior to another. The memory of a loved one’s passing is generally painful, but for some people like Dushka, it can also be beautiful.
“I feel really strongly about the way I remember things. It matters to me about how other people claim that I’m not recounting something right… I think that’s a gift. I’m so happy that the way I remember things is like that.” – Dushka Zapata
A Thin Line Between Facts and Stories
Dushka puts simply the difference between facts and stories through an answer to a Quora question. We often make assumptions about people’s behaviors that seem out of the ordinary. And these assumptions, those add-ons, are usually the stories that embellish facts.
Failure to see the difference between the two results in struggles for most people.
“It’s a wonder we understand each other at all because we look at the world through our assumptions and our insecurities, but I also think that we look at the world through a lot of things that never actually take place.” – Dushka Zapata
To hear more about Dushka’s powerful answers to Quora questions, her deeper take on stories and facts, download and listen to the episode.
Dushka Zapata is one of the most prolific and popular writers working today.
On question and answer site Quora her work has been viewed over 135 million times.
She’s the author of eight best-selling books.
Dushka has over 20 years of experience as a senior communications executive in Silicon Valley.
When she’s not writing, she serves as a communications executive at tech juggernaut Zendesk.
- Is there an age where it no longer makes any sense to take ballet lessons?
- My boyfriend doesn’t text me first. I have to text him first, and after that, he often doesn’t text me back. Why?
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A powerful, researched-based look at happiness with Professor Scott Galloway from NYU. Professor Galloway is one of the most respected voices on the Internet today. He shares how the happiness curve dips in our 20s and 30s, the many “algorithms to achieving a happy life” and why “follow your passion” is the worst advice ever.
The Arc of Happiness
According to Professor Galloway, the arc of happiness starts off at a peak from the age of 0 to 22, when there’s not a lot of responsibility to deal with. Around 25, shit finally gets real. Everything we have been told is simply not going to happen and handed to us on a silver platter.
By the time we’re in our late 20s and 30s, we come to grips with the fact that as a species, we are competitive. We vie for the title of most successful, and when we fail at that, disappointments come in one after the other. At 35-45 years old, we reach the bottom of the smile, where we slowly work our way up once again to a more rewarding life.
“The happiest people in the world are probably the people who shouldn’t be, and that is, [the] seniors.” – Professor Scott Galloway
Algorithms and Equations to Happiness
Through his research, Professor Galloway found about 10 or 12 algorithms and equations directly correlated to someone’s happiness. A lot of factors contribute to happiness—financial, geographical and even demographic.
For instance, the difference between being poor and being financially secure is enormous in terms of contribution to one’s happiness. After all, money can buy you happiness up to a certain point. Where you choose to settle can also affect your chances at success and opportunities for growth, especially as a young person.
“You wanna get to where the snow and the waves are great such that you have the greatest opportunity to be good at what you do.” – Professor Scott Galloway
Why “Follow Your Passion” is Bad Advice
We have heard it time and again. Any speaker would typically sign off with doing what you love when they themselves achieved financial success through, say, iron ore smelting. And the notion that they are actually passionate about such a thing is utter bullshit.
Professor Galloway says that we are most passionate about finding what we are good at and becoming great at it. Only then can we become one step closer to happiness.
“The financial and psychological and emotional accouterments that come with being great at something will make you passionate around whatever it is.” – Professor Scott Galloway
To hear from Professor Galloway about the state of young men in America today and why love is ultimately the key to being happy, download and listen to the episode.
Scott Galloway is a Professor of Marketing at NYU Stern School of Business where he teaches Brand Strategy and Digital Marketing to second-year MBA students. He is the author of the Digital IQ Index ®, a global ranking of prestige brands’ digital competence.
In 2012, Professor Galloway was named “One of the World’s 50 Best Business School Professors” (Poets & Quants).
Professor Galloway is also the founder of several firms including:
- L2, a subscription business intelligence firm serving prestige brands;
- Red Envelope, an e-commerce firm (2007, $100mm revs.); and
- Prophet, a global brand strategy consultancy with 250+ professionals
Professor Galloway was elected to the World Economic Forum’s “Global Leaders of Tomorrow,” which recognizes 100 individuals under the age of 40 “whose accomplishments have had impact on a global level.” Professor Galloway has served on the board of directors of Eddie Bauer (Nasdaq: EBHI), The New York Times Company (NYSE: NYT), Gateway Computer, and Berkeley’s Haas School of Business.
He received a BA from UCLA and an MBA from UC Berkeley.
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On this episode, we get to hang out with the incredible Dan Casetta. Christopher had a fascinating conversation with Dan about how to build a legendary culture, powerful ideas in recruiting and training, how to lead a young sales teen, how to change limes while saving dimes and a ton more!
Dan ran the Western part of the Cutco’s sphere that touches the Pacific Ocean with 5,000 salespeople in it. What he loves about this is they get to impact a lot of young people at the time that are critical in their lives.
They get to learn a whole lot of life skills, knowledge, habits and ways of thinking that make a difference for them.
“Once you invest time and energy, help them develop and do well, help shape their attitude about the experiences that they have, so that they end up succeeding.” Dan Casetta
Recruitment and Training
They usually start with the people they know, as in, referrals. It is easier for them to train and develop those people that have been personally recommended. The training is critical and the method of recruiting precedes the training as well.
According to Dan, once the summer is over and school starts, they continue to work with these young people to support their needs. They also have what they call Leadership Academy, where the trainees continue to gain more skills and knowledge that will help them to lead the team.
“We judge people based on attitude, not necessarily based on what part of the town they live in or their background.” – Dan Casetta
At a very young age, Dan was exposed to the concept of personal development. As he grew up in the business, a large part of the training and development that he did is to help people with their lives.
They teach topics and ideas that are just not related to selling Cutco, but also develop each person in his organization as humans, as people. He created this environment of personal growth in his organization and became successful in this kind of field.
“Help people with their lives, not just their jobs.” – Dan Casetta
To hear more about Dan, a sales leader and business and life coach, download and listen to this episode.
Dan Casetta is a record-setting sales manager, business & life coach, national speaker, culture shaping executive and a longtime member of the Cutco. He is also one of the best-selling authors of the book, Success Starts Today with the famous Jack Canfield, author of the “Chicken Soup for the Soul” series.
Some of his blogs are:
• Your Words Matter
• The Magic Secret (Part 1 and 2)
• Decision-Making: Insights to Help You Make Better Choices
• How Much Does It Cost?
• Why Me?
We hope you enjoyed Dan Casetta on this episode of Follow Your Different™! Christopher loves hearing from his listeners. Feel free to email him, connect on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and subscribe on iTunes!
Today, one of the best-selling self-help authors of all time, Hal Elrold sits with us. We unpack his brand new book, The Miracle Equation and talk about his life-changing story after beating cancer. Listen and believe that miracles do happen.
Hal created this equation 6 years prior to the Miracle Morning as a concept that he has been practicing and teaching in a company that he worked for. This is the formula that he used to beat cancer.
Anything is possible, but possible is not enough to get us up in the morning. His unwavering faith and extraordinary effort are his biggest decisions that helped him achieve his goal.
“The miracle equation is not a one-time decision to achieve a one-time goal. It’s a fundamental way of living, a way of bringing fate. It is the fundamental lens to which you approach all of your life’s challenges and all of your opportunities, goals and dreams.” – Hal Elrod
Possible to Probable
The voice of self-doubt and fear is what overrides us. According to Hal, we have to replace fear with faith. Stepping out on faith is how he closed the gap and by reinforcing that which he called the “Miracle Mantra”.
“You don’t have to believe you can achieve the goal in order to keep moving forward and ensure you achieve the goal.” – Hal Elrod
Developing the quality and characteristics of a person is what we need to focus on. For as long as there’s effort and by maintaining unwavering faith, regardless of what the result is, we can achieve anything.
This is not a one-time decision. It is a fundamental way of approaching our life in every challenge we encounter and in every goal that we set.
“The highest benefit that you can get from setting and pursuing a goal is not to hit the goal. It is who you become on the journey toward the goal by giving it everything you have no matter what.” – Hal Elrod
To hear more about Hal, one of the best-selling self-help authors of all time, download and listen to this episode.
Hal Elrod is one of the highest keynote speakers in America, a top podcaster, and creator of one of the fastest growing and most engaged online communities in existence. He is also one of the most inspiring authors of one of the highest rated, best-selling books in the world, The Miracle Morning.
Some of his works are:
• Achieve Your Goals podcast
• Best Year Ever Blueprint
• (10 books) of The Miracle Morning book series
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In today’s episode, we hang out with a leading futurist Mark Pesce. He and Christopher discuss how smart the world is, why we should not be afraid of the future, how the next ten years will play out and how technology will transform our health and well-being.
Path to the Future
People get blindsided, uncontrollable and scared of what the future holds. We tend to give up when we feel that everything is not falling into place. Mark wants to show us that there is always a path through.
We have always had this path. All it takes is looking at our past and the clues to help us understand how we are going to find our .
“People come out of that with the sense of urgency that there is something that they can do, something that they can be that allows them to have not just a stake in the future, but a capacity to keep up with that future.” – Mark Pesce
Fear Because of Change
According to Mark, kids these days are so different because of their experiences.
We ask ourselves why the world is changing and why we can’t keep up. The idea of fear in us is because of change. And it is something that can be tolerated as we have the capacity to learn from one another.
“We like to master things and we don’t like it when those things change from underneath us because it makes us feel like we’re losing on mastery.” – Mark Pesce
A Smarter World
The world is getting smart. There are apps, computers, electronics, high speed mobile Internet and sensors everywhere. Mark said that over the span of 40 years, all we have done is to learn how to take all the principles that are embodied with all of these.
We have such connections, wiring and intelligence of the world that when we look at it one way, it seems very threatening. It can seem that the world is going to be so smart and would not need us anymore. But we should always remember that a machine can be dumped a million times faster than a human can.
“The challenge and pressure for us is can we get smart at the same pace the world is getting smart?” – Mark Pesce
To hear more about Mark, the leading futurist, download and listen to this episode.
Mark Pesce is a leading futurist, author, entrepreneur and innovator.
He is an award-winning columnist for The Register and producer and host of This Week in Startups Australia. Mark invented VRML, the standard for 3D on the Web and a core component of MPEG-4. He also authored 6 books including:
• VRML: Browsing and Building Cyberspace
• The Playful World
• The Last Days of Reality
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Today, the incredible performance coach Phil Towle sits with us for his very first podcast. He and Christopher have a very big, deep and adult conversation about life design, crisis and failures, building relationships and loads more. Hold tight, this dialogue gets very personal.
Break Down to Break Out
One of Phil’s approaches in coaching is called the ‘Breakdown as a Breakout Opportunity’. He normally starts by asking clients what they’re going through and from there, he can get a picture of what that means to them.
Phil sees this as a breakthrough opportunity. He takes crises as chances to look back since those that we have personally experienced can be the most catalytic.
“The crisis may be in some ways more about my resisting change, getting out of comfort zone and doing something that I need to do to go forward than anything else.” – Phil Towle
When Crises Arise
Phil sees a crisis as very personal as we have to look at our part in the challenge. To deal with it, we need to slow the process down rather than focusing and having the desire to change in an attempt to make life better.
We should ask ourselves, “How did I co-create this? What’s my part of the conflict?” Once identified, we can then position ourselves to make the change. Do we cut and run or do we persevere?
“We co-created crisis out of necessity because we need to make a change, some kind that we’re resisting.” – Phil Towle
Relationships Founded on Authenticity
Building relationships, whether short-term or long-term, do not have to be hard. If we continue to create authenticity in our interactions, we build a kind of intimacy that makes it easier for us to do so. The best way to approach it is to have the desire to make sure that you maintain present interaction in a way that is meaningful.
Have the openness of someone that is constructing a long-term relationship and make sure that you and the other party are honest with each other. Invest in the quality of the experience so that in the case that things go downhill and you decide to abandon the relationship, you will constructively move forward. You will take each other with you and the relationship practically never stops.
“When I’m not constructive, or when I start to build expectations of how I want you to be, then our relationship is misshapen. It takes on a different form that’s likely to end in some kind of trauma because I haven’t respected you. I made you a conformer or tried to make you conform to my agenda.” – Phil Towle
To hear more about Phil’s take on crises, mental health and failures, download and listen to this episode.
Phil Towle defines “performance coaching” as a proactive psychological strategy that facilitates making your best better.
Phil works with “Difference makers” committed to using their God-given talents to fulfill their highest possibilities, and those around them determined to transform each hardship, setback and self-imposed limitation, into superior achievement.
His clients include:
- Dick Vermeil (Superbowl Winning Coach with St. Louis Rams);
- Bill Romanowski (Professional Athlete);
- Rascal Flatts;
- Tom Morello (musician with Rage Against Machine/ Audioslave/ Nightwatchman, and Human Rights Activist)
We hope you enjoyed Phil Towle on this episode of Follow Your Different™! Christopher loves hearing from his listeners. Feel free to email him, connect on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and subscribe on iTunes!
What drives a five-time Olympian? Today, we hear from the true legendary champion Kerri Walsh Jennings. The best beach volleyball player in the world sits with us for a conversation all about drive and inspiration.
“My bronze completes me. My dark side completes me… You need to have both.” – Kerri Walsh Jennings
Discipline Liberates and Consistency Feels Great
One of Kerri’s favorite quotes is Jocko Willink’s “Discipline equals freedom.” A lot of high-performing people get either flak for being so disciplined or pity for being “punished”. But discipline liberates and allows Kerri the space to breathe and accomplish things.
Discipline is all about showing up and doing what it takes on the daily. And it is as beautiful a word as competition despite the negative connotation often attached to the two.
“It makes me feel good to be consistent and to do the hard things when things are hard and to do it until they’re done.” – Kerri Walsh Jennings
Love for Winning Always Wins
Like most athletes, Kerri loves winning. But her relationship with it is as unique as it could get. The joy of winning motivates and inspires her more than the pain of losing.
People would often say that losing motivates them, but Kerri thinks that losing is like a chronic injury or a weight on one’s shoulders. It gets into your psyche in a way that drives you crazy. It is a toxic feeling despite the positives to it.
“I love winning more than I hate losing, which I think is why I’m still going.” – Kerri Walsh Jennings
Feeling at Home in the Olympics
With her veteran status in the Olympics, one would think that she felt the pressure of having basically the entire world watching her either win or lose. But not once has this ever occurred to Kerri.
The Olympics is fun, and she has always found it helpful to create a bubble around her to make her feel safe and not get caught in the noise. She has found her home in the Olympics, and not even the millions of spectators would take her off her game.
To hear more about Kerri’s distinction between inspiration and motivation and a whole lot more, download and listen to the episode.
Kerri Walsh Jennings has been called, “the Best Beach Volleyball Player in the World”.
Kerri is a five-time Olympian, three-time Olympic gold medal winner, and a one-time bronze medalist.
She is the beach volleyball career leader in career wins.
And Kerri is half of what has been called “the greatest beach volleyball team of all time,” with her longtime partner Misty May-Treanor.
Walsh Jennings is also an entrepreneur. She is the founder of p1440, a beach volleyball event series launched in September 2018 with eight events in the 2018–2019 season, showcasing the best in women’s and men’s beach volleyball from around the globe.
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Is it possible to live multiple lives in this lifetime? Today, the three-foot giant Dr. Sean Stephenson joins us for a wonderful conversation on growth, purpose, and a lot more.
Continuing to Grow
Even after achieving his stature as a public speaker, Sean admits that he’s still growing. He was in business with his father for 22 years and didn’t leave home until he was 31. Perhaps owing to his severe physical disability, he was very close to his family.
His home life was wonderful, but as he got older, it got more difficult. Being in the same roof with his family, he always had a group thinking and felt like he was curbing himself. So he decided to go through a very painful business breakup and step out into the world.
Learning to Walk
We can’t read the label inside the jar. Sean didn’t know how much he was holding back his own opinions or how much he was fully being himself. But when he moved and broke away, he started seeing how there were new levels and layers to him.
The stark differences between his and other people’s experiences growing up shocked him. After all, he was used to a culture where not doing what the family wants equals being a renegade.
“I have decades and decades of education where I help people through their pains and their problems. But in some ways, I’m still learning to walk myself, learning to navigate this world, and I’m loving the experience of making mistakes.” – Dr. Sean Stephenson
Breaking the Mold
It personally sickens him to think that some people would want to live the same life a hundred times over. To continue his self-discovery, he would reorganize his life every five years or so. He wants to look back on the past five years with a stack of embarrassing mistakes to learn from.
Sean confesses that he wouldn’t hang out with his younger versions with interests that wouldn’t necessarily appeal to him now. He loves himself all the more for it. And he can only wish the version of himself five or ten years down the road would feel the same way with the present.
“Maybe there’s a wrongful belief out there that the version of you will always be the same as you get older but I don’t agree with that. I’m constantly breaking the mold and starting over and trying new things and figuring out what do I believe in.” – Dr. Sean Stephenson
To hear about why purpose is sexy and how Sean turned his “disability” into a competitive advantage, download and listen to the episode.
Dr. Sean Stephenson was predicted not to survive at birth because of a rare bone disorder that stunted his growth and caused his bones to be extremely fragile (fracturing over 200 times by the age of 18).
Despite his challenges, he took a stand for a quality of life that has inspired millions of people around the world.
Since 1994, his powerful message has been heard at live events in nearly all 50 states and in 16 countries.
Sean has presented at hospitals, universities, prisons, and to companies such as Nike, Whole Foods, Zappos, Walmart, and Sharp Healthcare. He has shared the stage with U.S. Presidents, billionaire business moguls, celebrities, and his Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama.
Sean has appeared on everything from The Oprah Show to Jimmy Kimmel, in addition to online videos with tens of millions of views.
The Biography Channel produced an hour-long feature on his life called, Three Foot Giant.
Mindie Kniss & Sean Stephenson his international best-selling book, Get Off Your “But”, has been translated into over a dozen different languages.
As a board-certified therapist, and doctor of Clinical Hypnosis, Dr. Stephenson sees clients in a unique 12-hour session that gets to the root of their fears, excuses, and insecurities.
Each year Sean hosts live events and group coaching programs to mentor individuals in the art and business of public speaking.
When Sean isn’t working he can be found in the gym, playing NBA 2K with his friends, or watching NBA basketball with his wife and business partner, Mindie Kniss.
Both Chicago-natives, Sean and Mindie have traveled the world, but now call Scottsdale, Arizona, home.
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Why does being present mean losing oneself? On today’s episode, mindfulness guru Julianna Raye shares an insightful conversation with Christopher. Learn how you can apply your attention in ways to truly make your life effective.
Mindfulness and Being Present
Mindfulness practice entails knowing how to apply your attention through optimal ways. Understanding where to focus one’s attention alleviates even a simple headache. Opening up to the experience as it is happening will help release the pain, even if not always.
It turns out, there are two ways by which you can handle pain. One is to turn towards the pain and directly work with it or to anchor away from it. And it matters to be present in the situation in order to find a way to deal with it.
“I like to define what it means to be present in a way where people can actually understand how to do it—if they wanna do something.” – Julianna Raye on being present
Three Skill States
There are three skill states to consider to achieve mindfulness: concentration, sensory clarity, and equanimity. Julianna says that these are naturally-occurring. And they come up in life all the time, associated with the most fulfilling moments.
“The key is a lot of people don’t know that those heightened states—those skills—you can develop them and then they’re transferrable.” – Julianna Raye
When you achieve concentration, you get to spend more time focusing on what matters to you and less time being pulled into distractions. Nobody succeeds without figuring out how concentration works.
“Concentration is the ability to focus on what you choose.” – Julianna Raye
Christopher says that it’s interesting how you lose yourself in concentration. This means that the more present we are for us, the less alive we are. And the less present that we are, the more alive we are.
“It’s this amazing dichotomy to me that when we lose ourselves the most is when we’re alive the most.” – Christopher Lochhead
To hear more about the other skill states that affect mindfulness from Julianna herself, download and listen to the episode.
Julianna is devoted to deepening people’s understanding of research-supported mindfulness and empowering anyone to guide others in its practice. She has been training individuals and groups in the Unified Mindfulness system for nearly two decades.
Julianna is also a founding member of Brightmind Meditation, LLC—the developer of the Brightmind mindfulness app. She also consults and offers private coaching, onsite and online mindfulness training.
She has had more than 100 weeks of immersive silent retreat training in both the mindfulness and Zen traditions. Through these, she has completed over 12,000 hours of formal practice.
Along the way, she has participated in research including a UCLA study comparing long-term meditator’s brains with those of non-meditators.
She also designed and led the training for a workplace research study carried out under David Creswell, Ph.D. And that study showed positive outcomes with regards to improved employee well being and lower stress.
We hope you enjoyed Julianna Raye on this episode of Follow Your Different™! Christopher loves hearing from his listeners. Feel free to email him, connect on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and subscribe on iTunes!