Posts Tagged ‘Leadership’

008 Will Little – Take a Life, Make a Difference

Will Little Take a Life, Make a Difference Follow Your Different™ Podcast

Today, legendary keynote speaker, barber, and poet Will Little once again joins his friend Christopher. They share an insightful conversation on redemption, forgiveness, and personal transformation.

“We are not having the conversation they need to hear.” – Will Little on young men who feel angered or disconnected

An Eye for an Eye for Most

How would you feel if someone killed your brother, Will would ask people. For most, the first response is to kill. It’s what they feel is right, that there’s no other recourse for them.

This kind of thinking presents a myriad of challenges for young people.

“They’ll have no other authority but to hear the voice of the streets, even if they’re not built by that, even if they’re not in the streets like that.” – Will Little

Voice of the Streets

Sometimes, even the unwilling are forced to take up the gun. After all, it’s what the streets say they must do. But Will has made it his life mission to make people realize that it’s not a path they need to take.

Along with others with the same mindset, Will has been sharing his story to let people know that they can be who they are. While they grew up thinking certain things were real, they can shape their own reality. Understanding all of these brings hopes of growth and learning.

Presenting Possibilities

Ever since he started speaking with groups of young guys, Will quickly learned the most pressing challenge in transforming the lives of others.

“A lot of them see possibility in their life. They just think they’re secluded to this four-block radius where they live at and where they’re from.” – Will Little

To hear more about how Will Little shows young people who he is so they can all make a difference, download and listen to the episode.


Growing up in a fraught environment, Will dropped out of school early. He got involved with gangs shortly afterwards, which led to a gunfight that resulted in taking another man’s life. He has since served his sentence in jail for the murder, and now Will goes around having conversations with people.

Will shares his story with youngsters going through same challenges he was in back in the day. Now a keynote speaker, he shows people the possibilities in their lives and how they can transform themselves for the better.



South Philly Man Turns His Life Around, Now Promoting Peace One T-Shirt at a Time

Anti-Gun Violence Champion Will Little

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226: Dushka Zapata Do I Need A Soulmate?

Dushka Zapata Do I Need A Soulmate Legends and Losers

How does creativity bloom and do we really need a soulmate? Dushka Zapata is a talented writer and a communications executive at Silicon Valley. Today, she joins us to talk about writing, soulmates, the difference between blame and responsibility, and a whole lot more.

“The greatest lie ever told is that there is someone out there that can make you peaceful, happy and full.” – Dushka Zapata

Three Things We Learned

Creativity blooms from unpredictability and solitude

Dushka thinks that her fast-paced workplace along with everything else that happens to her on the regular enable her writing. In truth, being in one’s comfort zone can be gray and may kill the stories that one has to write. Striking the perfect balance between unpredictability and solitude to allow oneself to breathe helps in maintaining creativity.

Boredom and distraction are not a dichotomy

The inability to feel pleasure or anhedonia stems from both boredom and perpetual distraction. But distraction does not mean the complete opposite of boredom, and oftentimes unhealthy distractions take on the form of false entertainment fed to the brain. Perpetual distraction may also lead to burnout, especially if boredom still lingers even after giving in to one distraction after another.

Finding one’s soulmate will not fix you

Dushka actively answers questions on Quora and one of the many things that she has been asked is whether or not we need a soulmate. But this is just one of the many lies that we from every other person. We don’t need to find someone to end our suffering from dissatisfaction and despair or being disheartened and lonely, as this belief oftentimes enhances a permanent sense of restlessness.

Humans are already whole and our secret sense of dissatisfaction and loneliness is actually inherent to the human condition. In fact, no one out there has the ability to bail you out. Eventually, you can pick out someone to walk beside you through everything, but the antidote to your loneliness does not exist in anyone outside of yourself but you.


Dushka Zapata is a best-selling author and her work has been viewed over 120 million times on Quora. She serves as the VP of Communications at public technology company Zendesk.






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225: Foreground vs. Background Conversations – Bix & Joe Bickson

Foreground vs Background Conversations - Bix & Joe Bickson Legends and Losers

Which is the winner in a comparison of foreground vs. background conversations? On today’s episode, Bix and Joe Bickson join us for another conversation tackling a tenet of future hacking. They talk about how the power dynamics in the company not only affect performance but also derail communication lines.

“The first practice we’re asking executive teams to have is to say the background conversations in the meeting.” – Joe Bickson

Three Things We Learned

Power dynamics still prevail in organizations

People are often trained to think that the more senior members of organizations have more authority and power. This prevents the kind of uninhibited conversations to create new opportunities for growth from happening. These old constructs, relics of the system birthed from the industrial revolution still lingers even at present day.

Why power dynamics deter growth

Because of this authoritarian system adopted from eons past, people in power oftentimes end up drinking their own bathwater. Their subordinates tell them how great and inspiring they are. Positive feedback is feedback that gets bent out of shape and it’s in no way of use to future hacking.

Background conversations matter

Most executive meetings feel suppressed. People are concerned about not only the subject matter to be discussed, but also the manner by which they discuss items in an attempt to maintain professionalism. But as soon as people leave these meetings, background conversations happen, and these are the type that should actually be encouraged in organizational circles.

When people talk about wanting to hack the future, they want to achieve something meaningful to step up in their life and business. But the delta between where they are and where they want to be, as well as with who they are and who they want to be sometimes gets in the way. To traverse this delta, people in chairs must come to love the gap and address the difficulty of power dynamics in organizations.


Bix and Joe Bickson are a team of a baby boomer and millennial working together to create new organizational DNA.


We hope you enjoyed Foreground vs. Background Conversations – Bix and Joe Bickson on this episode of Legends and Losers! Christopher loves hearing from his listeners. Feel free to email him, connect on FacebookTwitter, Instagram and subscribe on iTunes!

223 Questions and Cocktails 1st Time Startup CEO

Questions and Cocktails 1st Time Startup CEO Legends and Losers

On this episode of Questions and Cocktails, Christopher Lochhead responds to another question emailed by one his listeners. A 1st time startup CEO for a new venture-backed company seeks advice on how to become a legendary leader.

“Legendary people build legendary companies. It’s that simple.” – Christopher Lochhead 1st Startup Time CEO

Love the Problem, Not Just the Solution

Christopher breaks down his advice into seven points and the first of which is to love the problem. The most legendary of entrepreneurs make it a point to focus on either a problem that people don’t know they have or re-imagining a problem the market knows it has, viewing the problem in a completely different way.

Prosecute the “Magic Triangle” as a 1st Time Startup CEO

Christopher and his co-authors addressed the concept in both Play Bigger and Niche Down. The “magic triangle” is the three things legendary executive teams and entrepreneurs get right. These three are product, company and category, and all are equally important.

As a CEO, you must be focused on all three while at the same time being an evangelist for the problem. The bigger the problem, the more urgent and more strategic you have to be since people will apply more money and time to solve that problem. And in turn, these problems create categories, the product and company intertwined.

Surround Yourself with Legendary People

For years, Christopher parroted the prevalent notion in Silicon Valley that you must always hire A players. But the truth is you will never have a company full of them. This means a CEO must figure out where to put the A players and B players to bring out their best.

A good B player is what you need for a lot of roles that must be fulfilled. But in key executive roles, whether in engineering, sales, or marketing and especially in the beginning, you need legendary people to fill in these roles. In this regard, think about who your board is and who your advisers.

To hear the other four points Christopher offers, download and listen to the episode!

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221: Bix and Joe Bickson Ruthless Compassion

Bix and Joe Bickson Ruthless Compassion Legends and Losers

Bix and Joe Bickson return for this series tackling different topics, including future hacking. Today, they share how imposter syndrome manifests and why people need to be ruthlessly compassionate.

“Every CEO, every executive, every person we’ve sat in a room with over time has revealed that they also have great doubts.” – Bix Bickson on imposter syndrome

Three Things We Learned

Everyone is suffering from the imposter syndrome

This is apparent in the way we present ourselves in the world. Particularly, people who are more senior in an organization feel the need to have it together. They need to look good, be the smartest, the sharpest and most intelligent, but the truth is everyone has their own self-doubts, concerns and worries.

Podcasts help reveal the truth

If there’s anything that podcasts have been a huge help at, it’s in revealing the truth that all the people we revere have to deal with the same set of challenges regular people do. It doesn’t matter whether they are a musician, an actor or an executive. Through podcasts, we get to listen to their lives and come to a realization that they are no different from the rest of us.

Manifestation of the imposter syndrome

People walk into an executive meeting bearing all the years of experience, knowledge and expertise that placed them in a position to be heard. But the value that a person is able to create is completely correlated with the willingness of people to listen. Without this engagement, whatever you work for won’t make any difference.

Self-doubt is more than feeling incompetent in areas outside of one’s expertise despite having the mastery of one’s specialization. Oftentimes, external stimuli like the engagement of your audience can play a role. Juxtaposed, these various factors swizzle about and create this crippling self-doubt regardless of having proven oneself time and again.


Bix and Joe Bickson are a team of a baby boomer and millennial working together to create new organizational DNA.


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218: Jeff Denholm Entrepreneur Fights Wild Fires

Jeff Denholm Entrepreneur Fights Wild Fires Legends and Losers

On episode 66 and 67Jeff Denholm sat with Christopher Lochhead for the very first time. They previously talked about his incredible athletic achievements as the one-armed surfer and all-around athlete. Today, he shares his entrepreneurial endeavors and how he and his partners are building a company to save the planet, save firefighters, and stop the wildfires.

“Three to four percent of the fire resources these days are private.” – Jeff Denholm on the involvement of the private sector in mitigating wildfire

Three Things We Learned

Glorification of mediocrity

For Jeff, 99% of social media is glorification of mediocrity. These platforms managed to condition people to want to see things deemed to be aesthetically pleasing or those that induce the classic rush of adrenaline. For this very reason, the things that truly matter, like environmental causes, don’t get the attention they deserve.

Fire season of the past

This fifth season that normally throws off anyone accustomed to the four-season scheme used to be three to four months of dry, mid-late summer through early fall, specifically for California. All the plants, or the fuel loads that catch fire, have enough time to dry out. The Sta. Ana breeze then carries whatever object that is lit, and this eventually causes the fires.

Present-day wildfires

Areas where large population centers interface with the dried trees, bushes, and grass often record the biggest wildfires. In California last year, wildfires started as late as December or as early as July. With the current trend of development and global warming, fires have become frequent.

Whether we believe these fires are caused by humans or not, they are happening. And they are not about to go away. This very knowledge has spurred on Jeff and his partners, among other private sector groups, in their pursuit of combating these drastic fires.


Jeff wears many hats in life, including entrepreneur, professional athlete, inspirational speaker and environmental steward. ATIRA Systems® is the professional nexus of Jeff’s entrepreneurial spirit and passion for the environment.

While seeking a fire retardant for his Wildfire Equipment Company, Jeff got struck by disturbing statistics about the toxicity of current offerings. He asked himself a question. “What if we could come up with a non-toxic product that is more effective at fighting fires of all types without doing unnecessary harm?”

Jeff discovered that annually, people dump millions of gallons of flame retardant into natural resources. These further destroy precious wetlands and large population centers throughout the world. So began Jeff’s drive to create a business that not only saves lives and structures, but does no harm to the earth.



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216: Dr. Shoshana Ungerleider: Designing a Legendary Death

Dr Shoshana Ungerleider Designing a Legendary Death Legends and Losers

Why should medical professionals put a lot more effort to improve end-of-life care? On today’s episode, internist Dr. Shoshana Ungerleider discusses her life’s mission and why bedside manner is of utmost importance.

“Patients and families deserve better. We have to do a better job at communicating.” – Dr. Shoshana Ungerleider

Three Things We Learned

Patients must be included in the bigger picture

Dr. Shoshana realized a lot of things when she did her ICU residency. None of their palliative measures, complex studying of cases, and wading through data would change the inevitable course of a patient’s journey. But there has always been the need to look at cases in the context of the patient’s entire life and if they had a sense of what was happening around them.

Many doctors aren’t trained to hold conversations

A recent study in the Journal of American Medical Association reported that most doctors don’t have training to converse effectively. This completely blew Dr. Shoshana’s mind. As a hospital-based doctor holding a lot of difficult conversations on goals and progress with patients and their families, this was telling of a public health problem.

Lackluster bedside manners are a public health concern

Indeed, there are more pressing and challenging public health issues in the country. But no patient or family must feel like they have to interrogate medical professionals to get a better understanding of where they stand. Practitioners owe it to people they have sworn to care for, even if only palliative, to tell them everything that they need to know.

Empowerment of patients and families is an ongoing struggle for the medical community. The concern will remain stagnant unless properly addressed. In the end, the patients suffer, and it is disappointing that even in their last stretch, they don’t get the kind of care they deserve.


Dr. Shoshana Ungerleider is a physician, founder, philanthropist and speaker. She works as an internist practicing hospital medicine at California Pacific Medical Center in San Francisco. 

Shoshana started the Ungerleider Palliative Care Education Fund. This supports innovative programs that further palliative care education at every level.

She funded Extremis, a short documentary about end of life decision making in the intensive care unit by Academy Award nominated director, Dan Krauss. The film won Best Documentary Short at Tribeca Film Festival in April 2016 and was nominated for a 2017 Academy Award and for 2 Emmy Awards.

She also executive produced End Game. It is a short documentary on hospice and palliative care by Academy Award winning directors Rob Epstein and Jeffrey Friedman. The documentary premiered at Sundance Film Festival this year and was acquired by Netflix.

Shoshana founded End Well, a first of its kind media platform and annual symposium on human-centered design and innovation to improve the end of life experience.


Dr. Shoshana Ungerleider – Website

Dr. Shoshana Ungerleide – Twitter

Dr. Shoshana Ungerleider – LinkedIn

End Well Project – Website

Review of End Game Documentary

Trailer of End Game Documentary

Right to Die In California

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209: General Stan McChrystal, Leaders: Myth and Reality

General Stan McChrystal, Leaders: Myth and Reality Legends and Losers

What makes a great leader and how can the United States become actually united? On this episode of Legends and Losers, entrepreneur, multi-time bestselling author and US Four-Star Gen. Stan McChrystal joins us to talk about why people should serve the country, his 9/11 experience and more.

“If we let members of our society not feel like fully invested, they’re not going to do the kinds of things that we’d want citizens to do.” – Gen. Stan McChrystal

Three Things We Learned

A great leader needs not emulate another

Gen. McChrystal has been an educator since he left the service. He has concentrated his efforts on the youth, helping them become the great leaders that they have the potential to be. What he first drills is the importance of defining their own values, ethics and strengths, because they can’t be somebody else they want to emulate.

Every American citizen must serve the country

Young people should do a year of military service to the country, and by extension, the Americans. This stems from the need to strengthen the bond of citizenship to move the country forward. We must bring back the sense of connectedness that seems to have gone away.

It took awhile for the terror of 9/11 to sink in

That year, Gen. McChrystal spent a month-long program in Kuwait geared towards raising awareness of the situation in the Gulf region. There has been a high level of alert for an anticipated attack, but back in the US, September 11 was a bright day Gen. McChrystal spent practicing parachute jumping. When the first tower was struck, they all took it as a freak accident, and it wasn’t until the second hit that they realized what it truly was.

Ever since 9/11, America was changed. It continues to change. Unless people are going to do their part even when the country asks nothing of them, America wouldn’t move forward.

Former U.S. Defense Secretary Robert Gates said that General McChrystal is “perhaps the finest warrior and leader of men in combat I ever met.”


In his last military role the General served as Commander, International Security Assistance Force (ISAF) and Commander, U.S. Forces – Afghanistan.

He previously served as Director, Joint Staff from August 2008 to June 2009 and as Commander of JSOC from 2003 to 2008.

A one-of-a-kind commander with a remarkable record of achievement, U.S. Four-Star General Stan McChrystal is widely praised for creating a revolution in warfare that fused intelligence and operations.

He is also known for developing and implementing the counter-insurgency strategy in Afghanistan and for creating a comprehensive counter-terrorism organization that revolutionized the way military agencies interact and operate.

A dynamic, powerful speaker, McChrystal impresses audiences with field tested leadership lessons, stressing a uniquely inclusive model that focuses on building teams capable of relentlessly pursuing results.

When old systems fall short, he believes true leaders must look for ways to innovate and change.

Citing stories from his career, McChrystal reveals a four-star management strategy, concentrating on openness, teamwork, and forward-thinking.

Few can speak about leadership, teamwork, and transformational change with as much insight.


McChrystal Group 

New Book Leaders: Myth and Reality

Leaders: Myth and Reality – Amazon


Stan McChrystal: John McCain Took No B.S.—and He Made Us All Better for It

Stanley McChrystal: Every American Should Serve For One Year

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207 Future Hacking w/ Bix & Joe Bickson

Future Hacking w Bix & Joe Bickson Legends and Losers

What is future hacking and how does it affect individual and organizational performance? On today’s episode of Legends and Losers, Bix and Joe Bickson elucidate this term that has allowed them to create ways to help people break out of themselves and the organizations that they’re a part of.

“What we call a future hack is to get inside your guts or the guts of your organization, and develop the ability to create and fulfill the future of your choosing.” – Joe Bickson

Three Things We Learned

Future hacking in a nutshell

We define a hack as an effort to get inside and get a piece of digital gear with the intention of using it for a different purpose. Joe says that future hacking is the process and idea of creating ways to help people break out of acting on someone else’s thinking. It’s ultimately a unique design and body of knowledge for individuals and organizations to perform in extraordinary ways.

The case for most executives

In the traditional corporate sphere, executives get paid to produce the intended future. CEOs report to a board and work so that plans agreed upon on happen. They work, produce and align different factors to achieve a set of outcomes in the future, entirely different from the concept of hacking a future.

Setting a goal versus future hacking

People don’t get paid for something that’s already going to happen. Performance often remains encased in a paltry definition of achieving a goal. Future hacking enables people to gain access and get their hands on the dials and controls of performance.

The status quo of measuring performance against a set of outcomes to achieve in the future isn’t worth preserving. To create a future, we need to gain access of tools to be more hands-on when it comes to performance. Bix and Joe Bickson work with people to help them get ahold and hack their own futures.


Bix and Joe Bickson are a team of a baby boomer and millennial working together to create new organizational DNA.


We hope you enjoyed Bix and Joe Bickson on this episode of Legends and Losers! Christopher loves hearing from his listeners. Feel free to email him, connect on FacebookTwitter, Instagram and subscribe on iTunes!